A week ago I took the “less is more” concept to my head (literally).  I got my hair cut really short and I LOVE it!  It felt so good to let go of those notions that we must keep our hair a certain length to look like a woman.  I feel very womanly and yet powerful (and even a bit sexy).  I love that I can fix my hair in less than two minutes now.  For several weeks I had been struggling to find a way to fit some yoga and meditation into my morning routine after getting home from CrossFit.  Now I can! The response from friends and family has been so great and I have had three friends this week post pictures of their new, shorter hairdos!  If I had any small part in giving another woman the extra nudge she needed to go for it, I am extremely humbled.  To me, being feminine is about everything going on inside our hearts and heads.  The beauty there is what creates the exterior – regardless of whether or not we have Disney princess hair.  Wanting CrossFit muscles doesn’t really fit that mold anyway.  Besides, I can’t sing.

Why doesn’t matter.  It doesn’t fix it or change it or take away the pain.  Actually, it kinda makes it worse.  Worse because by the time you can ask yourself “why” you are already in the middle of it (whatever it is). Today I’m feeling melancholy for a friend from crossfit and I’m struggling not to get caught up in the “WHY is this happening to him?” state of mind.  Doctors should ask why, therapists can ask why – but I really believe friends and loved ones are better off asking “what”.  What can I do to help?  What am I learning from his amazing resilience?  What can be done to raise awareness?  What resources are available to make life less difficult for him?

Most importantly, don’t let the question ever be “WHY didn’t I offer my love and support sooner”!!